Tolerance and Broadmindedness

We have been often taught to treat everyone around us with love and compassion. 

Be it family members, friends, well-wishers, or a person whose values and mindsets don't match with ours, or any stranger, we should treat them with great respect and love.

But what is the most difficult part here?

It is "To Love Unconditionally"

Love and compassion might come easy comparatively for our friends and families who we very well gel along with, but becomes a challenge when you don't get along with each other and the thought process of one person doesn't match the thought process of other.

The conflict faced due to this mismatch is still a beautiful discussion if both the parties have Tolerance and Broadmindedness to accept each other's views.

Rev. Vivek Shaq Ji once said we should start making our hate-list and besides that start writing the good attributes of the person. Soon you would condition your mind to give a benefit of the doubt to the person who was on your hate list.

You would try to empathize with his situation and put yourself in his shoes. That would help to build your tolerance and acceptance towards his actions.

And, what if after giving the benefit of the doubt, you let go of your hatred towards that person but the other person still holds a grudge against you and probably wants to hurt or harm you?

Satguru Maharaj Baba Hardev Singh Ji gave a beautiful solution to handle a person who doesn't get along with you even after multiple failed attempts, "DOUBLE THE DOSE OF LOVE"

Even if the person is reluctant to accept us, still what is stopping us from being loving and compassionate about him, being tolerant and accept him as he is? As a saint, we need to check Is it our ego that is holding us behind? Because a true saint would never refrain from being loving and caring for anyone in the world unless he doesn't know the God Knowledge and doesn't understand that all are the creation of one God one Nirankar.

Detached Attachment

A beautiful lesson, yet the most forgotten one : "Detached Attachment".

A saint once said, "Compassion with Detachment, is nothing but bodily attachment".

What makes the state of being in Detached Attachment difficult is the expectations we carry with ourselves to get expected results for every action we do.

The sorrows and miseries come when those expectations fail to materialize.

Be it your job, where you gave your 101%, yet didn't fetch you promotion or recognition.

Or , Be it your examination, where you studied hard for most difficult subject yet didn't get satisfactory results. 

Or, Be it unmatched efforts from the person and family member you love the most.

Or, Be it unfulfilled desires of luxurious apartment with nice car.

The insecurity and fear of not being respected in society, puts you through stressful situation.

This stress not only reduces your productivity but also opens door to self-doubts, ill-health, mental disturbance and all negativity.

When you consider yourself the doer of everything, it is bound to happen that you will be stressed about results. When you place yourself as the custodian of successful meeting of expectations, you are bound feel bogged down by the uncertainties and unfulfilled goals.

When you surrender to the absolute custodian of everything, the God Almighty, you are set free from the burden of the outcomes.

Surrender with gratitude.

Tera tujhko sop diya, kya lage hai mera.

Doing your best, keeping no stone unturned to achieve your dreams, yet not allowing yourself to get attached with the results and surrendering the results in the hands of the Creator leads to Detached Attachment, a gateway to happiness!

The Present of "Present"

We often tend to think more about our future. Or perhaps, blame our past for making our future vision so blurred.

And this my dear friend, is the biggest lie we say to ourselves.

We don't live in past in reality, then why do we live it in our mind.

We don't know what will happen next, like seriously no, else people would have already been prepared for Covid!

It's just our present that is present with us as a beautiful present.

Just like snake discards and sheds away it's old skin, let go of your past to build your promising future. 

But caution, don't get involved too much in details of future at expense of whole. 

Your goals , your dream life is the WHOLE that you want - Whole of it! Be it a nice big house or financial independence till your last breath. You need it completely. Not half baked goods. Aim for it, instead of getting strangled by details of how!

Join hands to pray. Join hands to save.

Quick Read, had written long ago.. but missed to post it 

They say GOD is one.  Yet,  we have so many faces of GOD, Ram,  Allah, Jesus,  and the list would be endless. With new Godfathers coming up everyday we definitely have lot of options to choose from.
But,  Fact remains the same.
GOD IS ONE.

Philosophers always quote,  Life has its equal phases of Happiness and Sadness.  Equal Amount of Good and Evil.

If Good Lord God can have so many faces,  then the evil doesn't stay anywhere far behind.

ISIS, AL-Quaeeda, Boko Haram, with no exception this list too would surely be equal in number of former list.

For one spreads love,  other spreads fear.
For one brings smile,  other can never sieze to make this world cry.

If these terror groups can stand together for their ultimate goal then why do we fear???

Keeping away the trivial thoughts of religion, caste,  creed,  race can't we join hands to eradicate this so called powerful anti social groups?

After all,  Not every Muslim is a terrorist and Not every white is racist..  There is merely two categories that define a human being : the good and the bad.  Period.

The history is a witness,  Evil can never win over the Good.  Just that this goodness need to unite.  Unite and destroy all the evil.

Regrets Are Stronger Than Gratitude

Looking back at life, especially during the times of loneliness, brings back so much to ponder upon.

The self talk, at this time of the day, chatters all the thoughts hidden in your secret closet. The hidden treasure has gamut of emotions bundled up in each incident, some of joy, some of fun, some of reverence and some of regrets. Of all these, the most impactful one now in your lone time becomes the "regret"

An emotion that can put you in binge thinking of all the agonizing things you thought you did. The mistakes of past haunt like a spirit waiting for a human body to take shape and try to live in this world once again with its devastating intents. Pangs of mood swings are just part of another transition that your mind now faces. The darkness filled around, screams and yells at you , echoing it's voice in void, of the decisions you made which were nothing, but just Wrong! The footsteps you took during those days, relive in your lone world now and force you to second guess all the decisions taken. The unanswered questions fill your mind with assumptions and self-doubts. You end up rethinking on the "Best Possible Response" to every fight you had with your conscience that time. Despaired feelings descend , only to make you feel weak on knees in front of the challenges and opportunities you foresee in your future. Whispering subtly, give up.. you would go wrong again... Give up!  

Lost in darkness, you grab your pillow, stare at revolving fan.. slowly with teary eyes..doze off!

Then there comes a new morning, strangely enough, you wake up pretty early. Lull inside, you hold on your coffee mug looking outside to comprehend what just happened last night. You look at those trees waving in breeze, chirping of birds, your mother making breakfast for family and suddenly it strikes upon.. "Thank You God, for giving me one more day to better my life. Without your grace, this wouldn't have been so easy." 

The light scent of gratitude fills the air around. It doesn't really put your fears to rest at once, but gives you that tiny-miny hope to have a life that you would call yours. Just like there is nothing like love at first sight, you just get infatuated at the first sight... The strong bond of love takes time.. it's own sweet time. 

Similarly, there is nothing like suddenly world will turn upside down by feeling of gratitude just for moment.. it takes time.. it takes efforts to recognize the presence of God's will in every thing around.. it takes efforts to look beyond the illusionary vision of things as they appear to be.. it takes courage to be appreciative of small steps you take to have that self-realization. 

Focusing on things you can be grateful about are just around the corner, sneaking and hiding.. awaiting your strong will to find it. It will be difficult to see through the tinted glass of worldly achievements and societal expectations.. well, that explains why the world around today is so obsessed with terms like "stress", "mental health" and "depression". They fail to understand that the real challenge is not depression, but one's will to find things that really matters them the most.. just them.. not the world, not the society, not their families, not their parents. Just them. 

By the virtue of being blessed with a life as a human, each one of us have been granted with the wisdom to know the truth. It is only found by the seeker. 

The one who seeks self realisation, one who seeks God's will in everything, one who seeks The Gratitude.

VISION QUEST

The story is of a happy-go-lucky girl, who loves to explore new concepts and think of implementing it. Although, not successful always, but that doesn't deter her from taking any new tasks by her stride.

For one-and-a half year in her project, she gave her 100% The work was challenging at times, while pretty much hectic most of the times. Nevertheless, it was a great learning experience.

Then came one fine time, when her team was pretty much dismantled, budget issues they said. Her friends moved out and she too was loaned to a different team. Suddenly, chaos and uncertainty creeped in. The people who closely worked with her left the organization too. The responsibility doubled up

This was a biggest turning point I guess, where at one side she felt she has been given big responsibility and other point, she lost vision of what next? She was now part of a new team, working on old assignments. It became difficult to fathom the challenges and even the opportunities ahead.

Months passed by, Covid and Ransomware added fuel to the fire of madness around. The quest for a clarity of vision had began. 

With lot of discussion and guidance from her leads, she has started seeing a light of hope in upcoming months. Hope her quest ends soon....

Believe.

The law of attraction states that you attract all the things that you believe are already yours. Whether it's your dream house or your wish to buy that cute black dress.

Few things are easier said than done.  Exercising this mantra is nonetheless difficult of all. The dream - big theory without the fear of losing anything might help universe to conspire your dreams to reality, but it might also fill up air of procrastination in your mind.

To understand this mantra is actually a "Secret",  as the name of book goes.  Something that you can know only if you experience it.

There are certain chapter and verse for that,  firstly incarcerate your fears in that green bottle,  lid it up tightly and throw it away in deep sea.  Fill up your body and soul with positive vibes and get back to work. Mind you,  procrastination will only help the devil of fear hover around you.  Make ways to stay away from it. 

What it actually direct at was,  Concentrate on bigger picture.  Concentrate on your goal. Hurdles and obstacles are bound to happen. To what you give importance becomes the game changer ,the Hurdles or the Destination.

All in all,  it's what Lord Krishna suggested in Bhagvad Gita,
"कर्म किये जा, फल की चिंता ना कर । "

Give your hundred percent to achieve something that you want, Believe in your hard work,  giving up all your fears, worries,  insecurities, anticipations and all those things that put you down and you shall inevitably achieve what you truly deserve.

The only thing you need to do is have consistent Believe.
Work and abstain your brain from the monster of fear.

What did your life teach you yesterday?

Yesterday : A day of darkness or a precursor for a new enlightened beginning of today?

It's just a matter of perception. The way you see it, the way you feel it. For the lucky ones who had their worst day yesterday, there is a hope for a bright sunny day today.

Life teaches you something new every time. Yesterday was a day of experiences and learning which could not have been taught better in any other way. Embrace the new things with open arms and you are sure shot hero of tomorrow.

For every dark cloud has a silver lining, never ever settle for the dull gloomy weather where you shiver . Look above all. The silver lining will remind you of the best that can be taken from the worst.

Whatsoever be your grievances, accept and acknowledge your feelings. They taught you something no school can teach. You learnt to love yourself. You learnt to see beyond the mystic feelings. You learnt to embrace those scars which might still hurt you but would surely remind you of not repeating your mistakes. You are no more naive and gullible to the duplicity of people. For today, you take your own example and rise up to have a better present and the best future for yourself !

Let that negativity fade away, only after leaving an inspirational mark behind. A mark that motivates you to live a life of your choice, on your terms. Let these learning be your raw resource to build a great life ahead.

Keep Learning! :)

Sarr jhukao, Kaam karo!

A very famous dialogue of an online series..  Sarr jhukao, Kaam karo!  The only way to circumvent all the bullshit world throws at us and to yearn our identity in no-nonsense way!  

There would be many around you trying to put you down,  destroy your esteem and mock at your mistakes!  Rude comments coming your way with a tag line  "Just Kidding" can be a normal phenomena!  But all you need to remember is you are in this situation for a reason,  either learn something or teach something!

The times we are hit by a truthful assault,  we need to make sure we churn the positive learning from it to be a better person next time! Make this learning from your sufferings your weapon to fight for a peaceful life ahead!

When you face the wrath of unnecessary comments or silly baseless judgments,  do not let it spoil your inner peace and disturb you forever!
Smack them by your attitude and let them repent what they said you can't do!

Overthinking and over analysing the worst part of your experience will not only  put your growth at standstill.  It will also drive away all the opportunities for the better future. Load mat le..  Go ahead and get going!

Haters gonna hate you, Lovers gonna care for you! You ought to be yourself else this world will eat you like a small morsel! 

Have the right attitude and nobody can dare to stop you from reaching the high altitudes!

What's Next???

The anticipation of future has always excited the losers. People dream a lot can be achieved and mesmerized in Future without realizing that the seeds of goodness have to be sowed in present. Procrastination is one of the side effects of such thinking.

We wait for the right time to do right things but in reality start doing right things now,  time will mend it's way to be right for you.

But,  today the question is,  do people with all kinds of wrong intentions ever think about the impact their wrong doings can have on them and others?
Do they even realize the repercussions  of their thoughtless acts to harm anyone?

There are lot of TV series we see these days.  Aired on TV only to show how polluted our social air is!
Criminals,  cheaters and all kinds of evil minded people strive hard to make the life of a common man hell,  just only to realize that the end of all evil things lead you nowhere. It's scary to even think of being one of the victims.  Isn't there anything we can do to make this world a better place to live?

To answer this,  words of great Mahatma Gandhi echoes in my mind : BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE.

The fearful negativity that surrounds our mind can only be trashed by replacing the thoughts of positive things.  Think of all the happiness world has given you, in form of family, friends, well wishers.  Think of all good things you did in day. It could be as small as making someone smile by your sweet words.

Count of your blessings. And let the fear of negative future take a back seat.
Sieze the day. Carpe diem.
Live to the fullest.
Don't overthink about your future and be the loser.  Change your outlook and be the Winner the world would look up at. 

HAPPY YOU WILL LEAD TO HAPPY ALL.